In Chapter 2, Titled "The Grace of Generativity", Lisa speaks candidly on her early understanding of love and its move from a more self-satisfying to a more shared and selfless love. That struggle that so many of us can relate to of giving ourselves in love - that beautiful 'unconditional' or 'true communion' kind of love.
In addition, she shares beautiful insights into the idea of 'generativity' through the Sacrament of Marriage. The lessons we learn as we witness marriage of our parents or friends, and the lessons we learn as we experience marriage ourselves. Some may consider marriage and our faith live as separate entities but truly when we 'marry' them we are opening ourselves and our families to great blessings and graces.
For so many years my concept of love dwelt too greatly on self-satisfaction. And even now, I have too many days when "What's in it for me," is my mantra. On the days we get this right, love means passionate, profound, secure attachment, that is at its very core, life-affirming, life-giving, and generative." Lisa Hendey, The Grace of Yes
To Ponder from The Grace of Yes: