"The truth is, we all have someone to forgive(1)," writes Fr. Scott Hurd in the very beginning of his wonderful book on forgiveness (see inset picture & citation below). Fr. Hurd proceeds to list many examples of people we may need to forgive, here are just a few (please note: that while the list is from Forgiveness, the comments in the parenthesis are my two cents):
I would add two more to Fr. Scott's extensive list:
We can not begin the healing process, if we do not first acknowledge that we need to forgive someone, and then identify who that person(s) is. I have encountered women at my retreats on forgiveness admit they really can't think of anyone they are angry with. However, when I start going through this list, someone usually comes to mind. If not someone else, I always see at least one person (usually more) with tears in their eyes or heads nodding in agreement when I mention not forgiving ourselves. It truly is a part of every human experience to have some situation, at some point, that requires us to exercise forgiveness.
So, who do we need to forgive? Spend some time in prayer - I even recommend sitting with a journal. Making a list of those people we feel have hurt us, how we feel we have been wronged by them, and where we currently stand in those relationships. Over the next few weeks, we will be looking at this list through God's eyes of mercy, compassion and grace.
"Without exception, we’ve all been hurt by others; without exception, our faith invites us to forgive those who hurt us." (2)
(1)Hurd, R. Scott (2011-09-21). Forgiveness (Kindle Locations 183-184). Pauline Books and Media. Kindle Edition.
(2)Hurd, R. Scott (2011-09-21). Forgiveness (Kindle Locations 190-191). Pauline Books and Media. Kindle Edition.